7 B-Vitamins for Self-Love We have to take Care of Numero Uno First
There was a time when I had this altruistic belief that everyone's needs came before my own and I moved in life in that motion. Whatever anyone needed, I tried to do. Wherever people needed me to be I was there. No matter the time nor the place. To the rescue I went. Super Tawana to the Rescue!
Burnt out, overwhelmed, and stress out, I didn't have time to do the things that I needed to do. And frustrated because the things that I did to help other people was not reciprocated... I got sick and tired of being sick and tired of being there for everyone else, and no one being there for me.
I decided to take care of me. Not out of spite, but I finally realized that no one could take care of me better than I could. No on knew what I needed more than me. And it wasn't anyone responsibility t do so; It was mine and mines alone. It was time for me to go to the Dr. on myself and figure out what I needed to be healthy, whole, and complete in loving me. This is what I came up with.
7 Vitamin Regimen for Self-Love
- Be Mindful~ Act on the knowledge of who you and what you feel, what you think, and what you want, not based on what people want from you.
- Be Intentional Action Based ~ Identify needs versus wants. When you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, balance and and moving forward in your life, you are being intentional in your life. By staying focused on what you need and away from automatic behavior patterns and habits that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, you increase your self-love.
- Be Good to Yourself by Practice Good self-care.
- Taking time out for you is not selfish and it’s the highest form of self-love you can give yourself and should be a part of your daily routine.
- Decide what is good for you because it's not a one size fits all. Some ideas include having sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions.
- Try this tool for finding out what it may be for you.
- Make a list of the three most important things or people in your life
- Visualize how you want to show up and be present in those activities of with those people
- Make the necessary adjustments and do more or do less to make it happen
- Be Firm with your Boundaries ~ Say no more to activities such as work and people, including family and friends and even romantic connections, that deplete or harm you physically, emotionally and spiritually, or express poorly who you are. Learn the responsibility of your yes’s and your no’s. Remember when you say yes to something, you are saying no to something in your life. When you say no to something or someone else then you are saying yes to something in your life and creating space to do the things that are in alignment with who you, what you want, and your goals and purpose.
- Be Watchful and Protect yourself. Bring the right people into your life. First, no more frenemies. If they are not truly happy for you, they must go. It’s enough sun for both of you to shine and if they want you to dim your light, get rid of them. Don’t even make time for that nonsense. Remember, choose YOU and your happiness and be ok with deciding and doing what is best for you.
- Be Forgiving: And Forgive yourself. Sometimes we are so hard on ourselves. Yes, taking responsibility for our actions shows growth and learning, but geezz, don’t persecute yourself. You must accept your humanness (no one is perfect) before you can truly love yourself. So I want you to practice being less hard on yourself when you make a mistake. Remember, there are no failures, if you have learned and grown from your mistakes, they are called lessons.
- Be Alive and Live intentionally. When you live on purpose and present in your life, you will accept and love yourself more, no matter what is happening. You don’t have to have it all mapped out perfectly. Just live on purpose and live a healthy and meaningful life and you will make decisions that support your intention and help you feel good about yourself in your wins and learn the lessons in your “loses.’
Ok. You have all the time in the world. So get to work. I want to see you a changed woman soldier. I’m just kidding. It’s work reprogramming your mind to choose you when we have been so conditioned to look outside of ourselves for everything we need. If you choose just one or two of these self-love actions to work on, you will begin to accept and love yourself more. Try one a month. Just picture how much you'll appreciate you when you take your medicine. And it is so true that you can only love another as much as you love yourself. Moving in action and intention if these self-love activities will encourage those around you to do the same. And having true love of yourself will prepare you for healthier relationships and attract people and circumstances to you that support who you are and where you want to be in life.